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Measuring the success of a man November 27, 2009

Posted by bdoza in BANGLADESH, Culture, Life, Society.
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The subject is always confusing to me.

I dearly knew a man who was a successful industrialist, a pioneer entrepreneur with a brilliant academic accomplishment who maintained a nice family so far, the wife herself a professional and children completed or on the way of completion successful academic career, suddenly this man separated from his family and prefered to maintain a separate personal life. I had an impression that this man was a successful man. But I couldn’t continue the notion as his family life is suddenly shattered.

How do you measure the success of a man? By his academic accomplishment? In Bangladesh, you will get many academicans are in frustration as the academic persuit in most of the cases kept them away from economic fulfilment. By financial achievment? People will envy you but wouldn’t like you. If you have poor academic background, that weakness will haunt you always. By your professional identity? Profession alone will not satisfy your inner urge of fulfilment. That’s why a doctor adopts unehical means to earn money; an engineer corrupts himelf to be rich.

What is in the end of life if your family is shattered for lapses in your character after you gain success in your profession? A peaceful family is also equally important for the feeling of success in life.

How do you relate your success in respect to the achievement of your children? What would be your feeling if they can’t fulfil your minimum expections? If they derailed in the midst of the abundance of money, how will you then measure your success? In our culture and society, children are part of our self. Their success contributes to a part of our success. If they fails, that’s a failure on our part also.

A man would be considered a complete success if he only could achieve success in all avenues of life. But in our experience we see virtually no man who is a complete success. Those whom we consider successful are outwardly successful, but in their inner life, you will find many of them, specially if you know them from close, are unhapppy man.

Probably this incompleteness is the mystery of life
to make man understand the smallness of his being in this world.

An ordinary citizen


1. Patriot - November 28, 2009

What about woman?

2. bdoza - November 28, 2009

Same. The word ‘man’ is used here to mean any human being.

3. shohana - November 29, 2009

i agree with you ….the question of success is posed by the western society and also categorized by them to. They have a certain level of standard and you have to maintain it ,,,,and then you are successful …and when we look at the maintainer of standard ..we find them frustrated and depressed ….the definition of success should be changed and so is the point of view towards our life ….good writing bro ..keep it up

4. Rajib - December 1, 2009

Nice article ! I was thinking about the topic a few days back while watching an interview of Melinda Gates (Bill Gates’ wife) on a TV. But I’m mostly overwhelmed when I find a person who has helped and positively influenced other people’s life. Few days back, I was watching the CNN Heroes for 2009 program in CNN. I consider many of these people as successful. There, I can remember, was a Pilot who used his (relatiely huge) salary to set up an orphanage and he alongwih his full family were taking care of 48 hapless and helpless kids. He could have used his salaries in many other ways. But I think the utilization he has made so far is absolutely perfect.

For these reasons, I consider my teacher Dr. Muhammed Zafar Iqbal as a very successful man.

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